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theothin said: SJ stuff is really confusing... like it's important but it's also really stressful to think about. I can't help but think that seeing excessive panicky stuff will get people more worried about the world and more obsessively critical about their actions than is actually worthwhile. Especially since Tumblr is filled with people with tendencies to have problems with that stuff (like me), and it seems to exacerbate the tendencies.

lilietsblog:

IDK, I mostly feel like people don’t worry about those problems enough

like, 5% of tumblr worry translates to actual real world worry
5% of tumblr activism translates into actual real world changing something

and there is not enough activism, worry and change in real world
and real world is kind of more important than tumblr
so I don’t really care if tumblr “overflows” with that stuff

Of course, people who have mental health challenges connected to these issues have all the right in the world to stay away from it. I pretty consistently tag my sjw stuff with “gender issues / feminism / lgbt+ / misogyny / racism / religion” and others occasionally I guess like transphobia (things that don’t usually make it to my blog, but when they do, I tag them) - those tags are all slightly different and you can blacklist stuff that bothers you!

But “more worried about the world and more obsessively critical about their actions than is actually worthwhile” - see, it only gets to this point inside the sjw/safe communities, but it’s the world outside of them that needs to change, and it’s far from “more than worthwhile” out there )= very far

And, you know, “stressful to think about” does not really compare to “stressful to live as a black person in a white supremacist world” or “stressful to be queer in a heteronormative world” and so on. Every person has a right to choose to stay away from things that they are already aware of and are stressed out by, but we also have an obligation to make more people aware of these “stressful” things.

Hope this makes sense…

Bringing more awareness to the world as a whole is important, but on Tumblr itself, where people tend to already have more awareness than they know what to do with… I’m not sure how often it actually goes anywhere as opposed to just screwing up peoples’ heads more. And although this isn’t anywhere near the same scale as the direct effects, mental health drain DOES matter.

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youdontlooklikeafeminist:

This comic is from robot hugs! Below is the text that was featured with the comic:

I had the amazing privilege to get some time to collaborate with Vex, a wickedly smart and wonderfully funny woman who worked as a dancer and escort in Canada from 2000 – 2008. Vex has asked that we don’t use her name or other identifying details.

This strip took me forever and I hope you all like it because I think my hand will probably fall off now.

Transcript below:

I used to live next to a strip club.

It was mostly unremarkable, apart from a few interactions…

Drunk Guy: hey….hey…isz this where the shtrippers live?

What I remember most was the things I’d hear people saying from the street below:

Guys:

“Those girls were fucking nasty, man”

“…ugliest strippers I ever saw… well, there was that one butterface”

“bunch of pathetic sluts, almost felt sorry for them”

This was so confusing.

RH:

Look, it’s 2am, you’ve clearly been there all night. You, you I see around, you visit this place at least semi-frequently. You’ve all invested time and money into this experience, what the hell do you get out of talking like this?

—-

Even more weird was the posturing, public nature of this performance. While there’s a lot of men who visit these clubs and end their night saying…

Guy:

That was a fun evening!

or maybe

Guy:

That kind of sucked. I don’t think I’ll go back.

——-

… what is the particular motivation behind the guys who react like this?:

Guy:

You can just tell they’re ALL riddled with herpes!

—–

A large part of it is clearly due to a social stigma against sex work and sex workers.

Woman:

Sweetheart, you can’t wear that, you look like a streetwalker.

—–

But you’d think that someone who frequents strip clubs would be less likely to hold those views…

Vex:

Not necessarily!

RH:

Former sex worker and strip dancer Vex! Do you have some insight into this?

Vex:

I sure do!

—-

Vex:

Disclaimer: These are my views on my experiences in sex work! They don’t represent all sex workers, but they are common in community of professionals I am part of!

The clubs and agencies I worked at were staffed by women and had men as clients, so that’s the dynamic that I’ll be talking about.

—–

Vex:

One of my favourite things about working in clubs was how it INVERTS the power dynamic of the male gaze! Men have to pay the price – literally! – of sexualizing women, and women are the ones who benefit!

Person:

Wait a minute. I thought sex work was disempowering to women.

Vex:

Look, I’m not really going to get into this, but to put it very simply, when a woman is CHOOSING to do sex work and her work environment respects her agency, her time, and her decisions, sex work is just a job. I never found it disempowering, but I DID find a lot of people tried to disempower me because of my work.

—–

Vex:

OK, what happens in a strip club is basically this:

Do you want me to treat you like you’re the most interesting man in the world?

Do you want me to show off my body for you?

Do you want to touch me?

Do you want me to flirt with you, to whisper dirty things to you?

Do you want to catcall me and objectify me?

Do you want me to be your sexual fantasy?

——

Guys:

YES!

Vex:

Awesome! I take cash.

——

Strip clubs are places where sexual desire is a transaction! Where men have to pay ME, and play by my rules, for the privilege of a service. And my service at its most basic level is catering to a sexual fantasy and validating male desire!

But it’s a performance, in a specific environment, for compensation. And when we’re not engaged in that environment anymore…

——

guy:

That was fun. Want to come home with me?

Vex:

Eh, no thanks.

——-

Outside of my work, and outside of the transaction we’ve negotiated, I don’t owe patrons anything.

In my experience, the reminder that the sexual fantasy isn’t real, that the women who perform availability aren’t ACTUALLY available, that we aren’t ACTUALLY clamouring to be sexualized by men, that we control when the fantasy starts and stops, and that our performance is just that, a performance that requires compensation…

…well, some men find that hard to swallow.

—–

Guy:

You won’t even have a drink with me unless I pay you.

Vex:

Honey, that’s literally my job.

Guy:

That makes me sad.

Vex:

Then you are seriously in the wrong club.

—-

What’s weird is that we don’t expect this from other service workers:

Our therapists provide a compassionate, safe, friendly environment for us to feel supported in, but we don’t expect them to do that for free elsewhere…

Therapist:

I’m friendly, but I’m not your friend. Our relationship is limited to a particular context and to roles that we both play.

—-

We don’t expect actors to stay in character off the stage.

Person:

Macbeth?? Why are you dressed like that???

—-

And most servers aren’t that invested in whether you enjoy your meal.

Server:

My unobtrusive politeness and helpfulness are part of what you expect from your restaurant experience, and I know my tip depends on it!

—–

So why is it so hard to understand these boundaries with sex workers?

Vex:

Because men are used to our sexual availability to be on THEIR terms, not ours!

So when we’re not available on their terms, they compensate by making sure that the world knows how they didn’t want us anyway.

A lot of women experience some form of this:

Online:

Hey, i like your profile, want to go out?

….Hello?

fuck you i was just trying to be nice you’re fucking ugly anyway

—–

guy:

Looking good, sweetheart! Smile!

Woman:

Fuck off.

Guy:

Yeah, screw you too, fatty.

—-

And so…:

Guy:

What a bunch of fucking whores, right?

—–

Some men feel a lot of resentment towards sex workers controlling their access to us, and they have anger towards us for requiring compensation for what they feel entitled to for free. They use our services, but they’re so bitter about it.

I feel that this resentment and anger is is the basis for a lot of the violence that sex workers experience at the hands of their clients.

—-

RH:

Wow, that sounds like it would really get to you.

Vex:

You know, the majority of my clients were really sweet and polite. I really loved my job.

Guy:

You were great!

Vex:

Every job has assholes, but most jobs don’t carry such a high risk of being harmed or killed by them. Male desire is what creates demand for our jobs, but male entitlement is what makes them dangerous.

—-

RH:

So what can we do?

Vex:

Please continue to support efforts to make sex work safer through legalization and increased workplace protections.

And if you’re going to visit strip clubs, that’s great! Just make sure you are respectful and polite to the women working there.

Remember, you’re buying an experience, not a person!

——

RH:

Well, thanks for taking the time to talk, Vex. This was great!

Vex:

My pleasure!

—-

Vex:

And seriously, guys, you’re not accomplishing anything by being such jerks. We seriously don’t care what you think.

Guys:

But that’s the whole problem!

RH

Sigh.

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Text 30 Sep 37 notes

swagginbaggins:

ok so I keep seeing posts on my dash about how “NASA has declared Pluto a planet again!!”

A few things about that

first off, NASA was never the one to officially declare Pluto to not be a planet, the International Astronomical Union (IAU) did that.  NASA doesn’t have the authority to do that stuff.  

Secondly, NASA hasn’t said anything about Pluto recently.  In none of the articles linked to these posts does it even mention NASA.  All these articles say is that the majority of the population (according to recent surveys) views Pluto as a planet and that some scientists agree with that.

But officially Pluto is still just a dwarf planet.  

I love Pluto as much as the next person but stop spreading misinformation.

it is also important to remember that WORDS CAN BE USED TWO DIFFERENT WAYS IN CASUAL VERSUS SCIENTIFIC CONTEXTS

the argument from linguistics, that pluto gets considered and referred to as a planet, is a good reason to acknowledge that pluto is often colloquially included with the planets in informal language

but at the same time it is useful to have a consistent scientific definition for a planet based specifically on its physical characteristics, and the current one does not and will never include pluto

the two are not contradictory

there is nothing to argue

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fandom-monster:

mybrainisallovertheplace:

lorasueee082011:

aplacecalledorange:

I think we should all celebrate by taking a moment to appreciate Robert Pattinson’s attitude and I’m laughing so much right now.

JUST ALL THAT HE IS.

I mean 

LOOK

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Robert Pattinson’s ‘Twilight’ commentary.

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I just

I’m going to miss this

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Who would have thought he hated Twilight so much?

This guy.

He hates Twilight more than Stephen King. 

Photo 30 Sep 6 notes thecometobservatory:

Another preview of the makeup for my halloween jake cosplay! It goes with his god tier. (:

thecometobservatory:

Another preview of the makeup for my halloween jake cosplay! It goes with his god tier. (:

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(Source: stillnotalterego)

Photo 30 Sep 51,702 notes derinthemadscientist:

lectorel:

gaycrime:

wow The Onion is dropping a lot of truth for a work of satire

The onion isn’t satire. The onion is pure progressive rage with a thin satire coating.

So you’re saying it has layers?

derinthemadscientist:

lectorel:

gaycrime:

wow The Onion is dropping a lot of truth for a work of satire

The onion isn’t satire. The onion is pure progressive rage with a thin satire coating.

So you’re saying it has layers?

(Source: labryth)

Video 30 Sep 12,160 notes

toothbrushpiano:

Cat with a laser pointer taped to its head

This person deserves the Nobel prize.

(Source: Laughing Squid)

Photo 30 Sep 106,231 notes spaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaace:

I read the tweet, and then I read the username.

spaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaace:

I read the tweet, and then I read the username.

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